How Teledildonics and Sex Tech Can Support Long-term Relationships

Sex matters! It's a crucial part of a loving, healthy relationship, but it can become routine over time, and the spark dies. But it doesn't have to. Experimenting and exploring together can bring couples closer while ushering in a new level of intimacy. Enter teledildonics and virtual reality — technologies that are revolutionizing pleasure.

Long-term relationships can be both fulfilling and challenging. Having someone to share your life with can be a great source of joy, but it also requires hard work to ensure both partners are happy and fulfilled. Communication, trust, and mutual respect are key to creating a strong and enduring relationship.

Intimacy and physical connection are also essential components of a happy, healthy relationship. Making time to be alone, expressing affection, loving touch, and bonding through sex all help to foster closeness and deepen the connection.

Decreasing sex levels

However, decreasing levels of sex between people in long-term relationships is a common issue. There are many potential causes, including stress, health issues, or changes in priorities and interests. Lowered self-esteem or body image issues can also take their toll, leaving people feeling less attractive or desirable and less willing to engage in intimate activities with their partner. Furthermore, when two people have been together for years, they sometimes forget the importance of showing appreciation and affection towards each other, leading to a lack of motivation or enthusiasm when it comes to sex.

After years or decades together, the passion of the early days fades, the frequency of sex decreases, and the relationship can become stale. The lack of intimacy and physical touch can leave couples feeling frustrated, lonely, and disconnected. But it doesn’t have to be this way — a successful and fulfilling long-term relationship doesn’t need to mean less sex.

Technology comes to help

By investing in the relationship, couples can reignite the flame of passion and re-establish the closeness they once had. And as new technology, such as teledildonics and virtuality reality (VR), is developed, there are now more ways than ever to ignite desire and boost relationship satisfaction.

To find out more, Healthnews spoke to Carol Queen, Ph.D., Good Vibrations Staff Sexologist, Curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum, and author of The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone.

Does a long-term relationship always mean less sex?

No! If you're in a long-term relationship, it doesn't mean you have to give up on sex, as there's plenty you can do to keep it satisfying and fulfilling. “If issues arise, getting help with them and working together to address them is key,” says Queen. Prioritize communication and connection, find ways to express your love for each other, and explore new avenues of sexual expression to keep the spark alive.

"When both partners are satisfied with their sex lives and value what that brings to the relationship in terms of intimacy, pleasure, and renewal, those couples are the ones who are best suited to maintain their sexual connection long-term,"

Carol Queen, Ph.D.

But how can we cultivate intimacy in an always-on culture?

Life is full of stressors. From work to parenting, family to finances, it’s hard to switch off from the hustle and bustle of daily life in this always-on culture. But taking time for yourself and your partner is the magic formula for maintaining closeness.

“Prioritizing one another and your connection is the first answer,” says Queen. “It also means knowing what's getting in the way of intimacy,” she continues. So “Put away the screens and focus on one another when you're together, don't take each other for granted, be aware of the way distractions manifest in your lives, and draw boundaries,” she says.

When you're apart, sharing a few texts or photos to let your partner know you're thinking about them — and want them — can foster a deeper sense of affection. And now, thanks to the evolution of technology, teledildonics has created an era of unprecedented possibilities for those separated by distance. No longer do couples need to feel deprived of physical closeness or worry about being apart for extended periods — with teledildonics, they can enjoy passionate moments no matter where they are.

How can teledildonics and sex tech support a healthy sex life?

Teledildonics, also called cyberdildonics, is a technology that allows people to control sex toys remotely through Bluetooth and Wi-Fi connectivity. Users can customize their partner's experience by adjusting intensity levels, patterns, and other settings, from anywhere in the world.

"Teledildonics alone allows us to connect with others sexually regardless of distance between us, so already it's an amazing tool for connecting casually or maintaining intimacy,"

Carol Queen, Ph.D.

The devices allow couples to share sensual moments over the internet remotely and enjoy physical sensations without being physically present. You can experiment and explore new levels of sensation, communication, connection, and playfulness, which help maintain sexual chemistry in long-term relationships.

Virtual reality (VR) is another layer of technology that can be used with teledildonics. VR is an immersive digital environment that allows you to experience and interact with a simulated world. The technology can be used in tandem with teledildonic devices to provide a passionate experience for lovers who are apart.

“VR empowers us to enter a fantasy with more than just our imagination,” says Queen. It gives us lots of flexibility around identity and the kinds of sexual adventures you might not easily access in real life. You can explore different scenarios, costumes, and genres of play with your partner and find something that works for both of you.

VR and teledildonics are excellent tools to expand pleasure, explore fantasies, and take risks in a safe environment. It opens doors for couples to create new experiences and foster deeper connections.

Ultimately, technology can be a great support for maintaining intimacy, provided we use it in balance with other aspects of life — like getting enough sleep, engaging in non-sexual connection, and having meaningful conversations. No matter how advanced the technology becomes, real human connection still matters most.